Adopters new experiences: The boy’s first train ride

December 11, 2013 10 Comments

It is perhaps a little self-indulgent to be talking about my own new experience, when in actual fact, it is the boy who ventured into new territory. However, this blog is about adoption and our experience as adopters as well as the development of our son.

In the lead up to Christmas we decided to do some speculative Christmas shopping, and thought we would treat the boy to his first train ride.

Because of Mummy’s work, I often take him to the train station to greet mummy after she returns from London. He has shown a consistent interest in trains, and lights up when a train whizzes past without stopping at the station:


Interested as he is, we have a host of train related toys for him which seem to be the most played with.

Under 5s go free – thankfully

With all of this in mind, we wanted the boy to experience a real train ride, so instead of driving into town, we caught the train, for the meagre 17 minute trip. (At a cost of £20.00 I might add – no wonder people don’t commute!)

Adoption new experience

Ooooo look, I can see our house from here!

The exorbitant price aside, we had the good fortune of having a ticket salesman print out some fake tickets for the lad, so he could have his very own train ticket for the journey. (Under 5s travel free in case you didn’t know.)

As he grasped the tickets tightly, my wife took our son to a free seat, and I purposely lagged behind so I could take in my own new experience.

To see the excitement and anticipation reverberate around my son’s sunny face brought back to me why we took on adoption.

We pulled away from the station, and he beamed a bright smile towards me, and the carriage echoed with a

“Daddy, look… mooooving.”

…a wonderfully toddler-like emphasis on the ‘mooo’.

First experiences all round

It occurred to me that his first experiences were also first experiences for us. We are equally excited about such events purely to bear witness to our son’s knowledge swelling in front of our eyes.

This is not always the case with adoptive children, who can typically become anxious at the mere thought of change or anything new. So, I suppose we are blessed that our son is not affected in this way. At least, he wasn’t this time.

The experience also showed us how much he has come on since he has been with us. His gleeful stares at other people on the carriage and his pure volume were of a boy who was taken in by the new textures, smells, and views. This was a boy who is showing no fear, and a lad who, we are increasingly hopeful, has a bright future.

I just hope all his first experiences are as positive as this one.

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About the Author:

Andrew is an adoptive father, and stay at home dad. Having adopted his son in January 2013, he is a new adoptive parent, but well versed in the adoption process. He is a married, coffee drinker, Xbox addict, and a Marketing graduate. Andrew McDougall is an alias he uses to protect the identity of his adopted son.

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  1. Nicky says:

    What a beautiful story. You are doing so well and you’re right, it’s important to share first experiences together. I hope you all have a great Christmas.

  2. claire says:

    That’s a really lovely blog post and I’m glad things are going so well for your family. I am hoping next year brings my husband and I the same pleasures.

  3. rh says:

    We’ve taken our son on a couple of train journeys now – luckily living where we do (metropolitan area) it is not too expensive. He loved his first journey and was really happy yesterday when I took him by myself into local city for a bit. I am finding the new experiences great – our son has been placed with us 8 weeks tomorrow so lots of firsts and more to come.

  4. Nick says:

    I really enjoy the tales and advice on this Blog. It makes me dream about what it will be like if we are successful in our quest for adoption. I recently found this site and have spent ages going though the achieves and reading about your journey.
    On a side note. Did you ever feel that being the SAHD (as I hope to be) could have been a consideration for the social worker or panels? I just feel really nervous about it and keep thinking that they would prefer it to have been my wife. Did you feel that it affected their decision on the number of children you could adopt and of what age?

    • Hi Nick, thanks for the comment.
      I never felt that being the SAHD would be prohibitive, although, now you have said it, I am starting to wonder if this was a factor in us not being allowed to adopt two.

      That being said, one of the reasons we were matched with our son was because I WAS the stay at home carer. Our son, at the time had a propensity to react better to male figures, so this was part of the criteria.

      Any good agency or authority will not use this fact to your detriment, and the world is slowly opening its eyes to equality in this manner. By all means ask them though, and see what they say.
      Thanks again for commenting.
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  5. laura says:

    Love your blog.trying to encourage hubby to read as he’s struggling with additional reading. Going through adoption process at the moment. Stories like this, after a heavy day training and talking about the issues we may face , remind me why I want to do this again. Muchly appreciated :)

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