Christmas is generally a joyous time for most people who celebrate it. However, for those who dream of parenthood, but have yet to be gifted with it, Christmas can be painfully quiet.
A couple of years ago, we celebrated Christmas, and felt a stinging pang of absence from a child we had yet to meet.
Of course Christmas was good fun, and relaxing, but we were growing increasingly frustrated that our Christmas tradition of putting the tree up on the first Saturday of December was being done without the joyful chattering of a littl’un.
This year would mark our first Christmas as a family, and finally our tradition was fulfilled with our son on my shoulders placing our camp little fluffy star on the summit of our bedraggled tree. Sure the tree task took twice as long, and the boy spat his mince pie on the carpet, but it was still perfect.
We could not have asked for anything better, and as my wife and I took a step back to see our son examining his handy work, we both felt the gap in our previous Christmas experiences fill up; filled with the love we had for our son.
A message to potential adopters
I know how that feels, and it can’t be fixed yet… But it can be fixed.
Keep holding dear the hope that you will share your Christmas with your child, and it will happen.
You can’t ignore the gap in your heart, but you can enjoy Christmas for what it is, and remember… At some point, you too, will be mopping up masticated mince pie from your newly hovered cream carpet.